Showing posts with label College Journey. Show all posts
Showing posts with label College Journey. Show all posts

Thursday, January 19, 2017

College Journey: Find Your Own Music

College Journey is a twice-monthly posting series (the last two Thursdays of every month) where I talk about both my experience and advice I've collected along the way. I go to a small liberal arts college in the middle of Nowhere, IL, and while I enjoy the campus and the company the wider community is much different than what I'm use to. If you ever have a question, check out my college journey tab, where I've collected all past posts, or shoot me an email (tsundokublog(at)gmail(dot).com) and I'll respond as soon as I can.

This post is two pronged. I mean a lot with the title. I mean it, first, in a literal manner, and, more importantly, in a figurative way. Music is a super big help in my life- it keeps me going, motivates me, connects with me, inspires me, and picks me up when I'm down and nothing else can do it. It takes no energy to listen to music and I'll often fall asleep and wake up to it stuck in my head. It's a soundtrack for your soul, and it's important you find some you like to keep you going through life, if it does have that sort of effect on you.

More importantly: you need to find your own internal rhythm. You can't base your days off of what everyone around you is doing because you can't sacrifice your goals and your time to someone else's, at least not all the time. There are always exceptions, but it's a bad idea to try and spend every waking minute following someone else's schedule when it doesn't work for you. Maybe you don't know what I'm talking about, but I'm guessing you do. In it's essence, what I'm saying is don't bend over backwards for someone or something when you can't straighten up afterwards.

Recently I've had stress issues and I think those stem, at least in some part, from trying to fit the things I need to do into other people's schedules and them trying to fit what they need to do into mine, making everything stressful in the end and tempers and emotions run high. So I took a step back and recollected my thoughts and what I needed to do to help calm things down and here's what I've come back with:

Classes come first. That's it. That's the reason you're in college isn't? It's so you can learn and use that knowledge in your life in some way, whether it's career-wise or not, you have an end goal in mind and classes are probably what gets you there. Don't let someone else get in the way of them and make sure to take time before and after each class so that you're not rushing around from one to another.

Do homework alone, or at least part of it. I like doing homework in an environment conductive to getting stuff done, and sometimes that means with a bunch of my friends in the library as we all work diligently and sometimes that means secluding myself in my room. Even when they're all out in the common room having fun and doing things. This tags onto the mantra that classes come first- because homework and studying are the key to your classes.

Eat on your time. Meals are one of the few social times I always have assured but they've also been problematic lately. I try to make sure I have my homework done at specific times so I can eat with specific people but that's been getting in the way of, you guessed it, homework. And homework is the key to classes. And classes come first! See where this is going?

Actually know when you're going to hang out with people. By this I mean, you know you're going to want to have fun Friday nights through Sunday evening, and while that won't really work out, you do know the times of the day and the week when you're going to be willing and more wanting to hang out with friends. You're going to want to go on adventures and play board games and just exist in the same space in a non-toxic way. Which means you have to be able to schedule your homework and other priorities around this time so that you don't feel like you're missing out on something important.

Take the time for yourself and don't feel guilty. Pretty self-explanatory.

That's my best advice, and I'm going to try my own darnedest to keep up on it as well. Good luck to us all!

Thursday, December 29, 2016

College Journey: Year Wrap Up & Look Ahead

I've been told that the best way to end any span of time, be it a week, a month, or a year, is to look back at what you've accomplished and ahead at what you want to do. I do this on a personal level in my planner every Sunday and it's one of the best habits I've gotten into because it allows me to really take stock of what the important tasks are and what the trivial things are and also helps me manage my time. Instead of doing a regular College Journey post, then, I'm doing something similar and I'm going to go back through all the posts from this year and give an outline of what posts I want to write in the new year. If there's anything you want me to write a post about, don't be shy! Leave a comment.

These first few posts come from what I consider "season one" of the college journey posts, meaning they were written when I was still a Freshman and they were, more or less, a test run of how these were going to go.

I wrote this one after my roommate left the school for her health and it had me really thinking about when college is or isn't right and what you can do instead.

Part one of the stress reduction posts (part two released just last week!).

A common theme here is time management because I'm slightly obsessed with it. I hate the stress that comes when important things start overlapping and do my best to prevent it from happening. I've been pretty good at that lately, though work has thrown me off the time management skills I've been developing I'm hoping next term will be better. I may write a follow up post to this next year, but not any time early in the year.

A challenge I set for myself that really didn't work out. Oh well.

One of my favorite posts because it's got some really solid advice in here. If you're about to go to college or still settling in I recommend checking this post out. I will do a similar post, probably collecting tips I picked up this year, at the end of the school year.

Now here are the posts from this school year and they're definitely a lot more professional than the previous ones, though don't think the previous ones are bad! They're just not as structured.

Something I recommend looking back on before you head back to school after winter break ends.

Another one that I recommend peeking in on every time you return after an extended stay at home.

Pretty self-explanatory title.

This is one of the few (actually, it may be the only) college journey posts this term where I actually touch base with everyone and show you a peek into my own life and how things are going at school. There will definitely be more of these in the new year because I think they're very helpful in their own way- rather than tell you what to do I show you how I'm doing and coping.

These are some things I learned the hard way and tips that help me read. Reading calms me down and helps get rid of stress and is also just something I love doing so making time is upmost importance.

A small post but a fun post.

Finals are hell! I'm only slightly kidding. They don't have to be, though. Here's what I do and it mostly helps me get through them. With these I don't, at least, feel like giving up every half hour or that I'm drowning. It's possible to get through them I promise!

You're probably home right now so don't forget some of these things. I will probably write another one of these right before summer break, adding in some final thoughts on cleaning your dorm and getting a job.

Part two of stress reduction during one of the bleakest times of the year. You can make it through this, I promise!

So what will I be doing next year? Well, I'll definitely be keeping the same schedule where I post twice a month on the final two Thursdays, but from this point forward I'll be posting information on the first of those two, and "documentary" on the second, meaning it will be a peek into how I'm doing.

For specific posts I will definitely be getting to a dorm tour sooner than later. I want to make sure everything is straightened up and that I have a camera that records sound well. It will take me a day to record and probably a week or two to edit so don't expect it until March most likely but it will absolutely be coming. As for a campus tour, I'm going to push that off a bit longer because I don't want to record in the snow and want everyone to see a really nice, spring version of the campus.

I also expect to wrap up this "season" of College Journey at the end of May and king a two month break until August. I won't be in school during that time anyways and the break will be nice.

Here's to the new year!

Thursday, December 22, 2016

College Journey: The Winter Stretch and Stress Reduction Part 2

In February of last school year I posted "part one" which was intended to be standalone, but I think it's a very important post to revisit. I may even do one every year at this time because the winter stretch is really a hard to time to be at school. There's not much to do outside, it's cold everywhere, and classes seem to bog you down with no hope since only spring break awaits you at the end of this long term and hard work. Stress levels are, unsurprisingly, at a high, and people who need to sun to thrive may even start to feel depressed. 

Last year I mentioned Music, Coloring, Reading and Writing, Friends, TV, and Taking a Break as some great stress relievers. I still believe all those things- particularly coloring. Even better than regular coloring is watercoloring which relaxes me more than colored pencils or markers. Art in general is a great way to destress.

Exercise is also something that I would recommend. I don't do it as much as I want to but when I do do it regularly and for long stretches (I like to run on the treadmill and elliptical) it both prevents too much stress from building up and relieves the stress that's already there. Sometimes I watch Netflix while I'm running, sometimes I listen to an audiobook. Whatever strikes my fancy. For whatever reason I can't run and listen to music, my mind just wanders too much.

Walking for pleasure is another thing that's great and something I've only just discovered. Some of my good friends do this regularly whenever they're feeling stressed or have a problem they want to deal with so I gave it a try. Unlike regular exercise which clear's my mind, walking forces me to confront the "problem" or stressor and think of ways around it. I've made great plans and had revelations that have panned out while walking. When you're in the middle of writing an essay or studying for a test a good walk is a great way to break things up and stop you from getting so weary as you're writing it.

Scheduling your day in advance is a great way to make time for the things that matter and stop stressors from getting in the way. I have a document on my desktop called "Dream Schedule" which is what my days would look like if everything goes according to plan, with time built in so that there's wiggle room for everything. Ideally each day has 7-8 hours of sleep built in, a skin care routine, three meals (and maybe a snack), exercise, and no more than four and a half hours a day dedicated to homework. I also don't schedule doing any work on Fridays and as minimal as I can for Mondays because who wants to be working those days? I also like to write down where I want to work on my homework because

You shouldn't work in the same place all the time and even if you only have a few options to choose from your main one shouldn't be your bedroom. I like to work in the library and I'm pretty productive in there, as long as I move around from place to place within the library. Sometimes it's just a matter of choosing a desk right next to one I used before, while other times I need to get up and move to a whole new floor of the building. I have four or five that I really like and that's enough for me. But working in the library isn't always feasible and sometimes I have chores I want to do while working, so I schedule times to work in my dorm as well, but never for as long as I work in the library because I want stress out of my bedroom as much as I can get.

Treat yourself every once in a while. I don't mean blow a bunch of money. In fact, the best way to treat yourself is to get food that reminds you of home and that doesn't have to cost much at all. When you've worked hard, but before you're too stressed out, treat yourself with a favorite meal and enjoy it in all it's glory- don't try to work while you eat it!

Those are some new pieces of advice I've picked up since last time. I recommend giving part one a read through, too. If you have any advice of your own I'd love to know!

Thursday, November 24, 2016

College Journey: Returning Home

For me Winter Break is a month and a half long experience. I know most people don't have that, but it isn't uncommon to have both a Thanksgiving break and a Christmas/Winter break, so most people do get the chance to spend several weeks with their family. Last year taught me that these aren't always ideal times for me. There are a lot of things about being at home that cause me to spiral down and over the summer it was truly bad. Winter break is shorter and to prepare I looked into things to do that might help. I have a feeling being back is similar to post-culture shock, the feelings of reversal back into a world you feel you may have grown out of. I hope these things I've found can help you adjust healthily back into life at home.

Don't give up your independence. It's great to be surrounded by my mom and dad who will gladly do my laundry, take me to the store, buy me food, or see a movie with me. At school I'm used to doing many of these things myself or with friends, who I would consider more equals than my parents (who, and this is a weird way to put it, are superior). I grew up under my parents and while I like spending time with them I don't want to get choked out of a lot of the independence and agency I worked for. So I'm doing my own laundry, taking care of at least half of my own meals (it would be rude to eat away from them all the time but if I'm coming home from work and tired I might get my own food), and going shopping when I feel like it for what I need. I don't want to depend on them and I can be a big girl, too. Of course, this doesn't mean cutting them out, it just means doing things for me because I need to and because I can and not depending on another person.

Don't let them treat you like a kid. It's easy to revert when you're back in the place you grew up. But don't let "them" treat you like you're younger than you are. By "them" I'm referring to anyone who might, whether that's the cashier, your uncle Pete, or your parents. If you're in college you're probably an adult and you deserve to be treated like one (as long as you act like one). It probably won't be a conscious decision on anyone' s part to treat you like you're younger than you are, they're just used to it. And you may be used to being treated that way. Remember: you're an adult. If you're anything like me, you're still learning how to be an adult, but reverting to a younger version of you won't help that.

Keep in contact with friends. This may be one of the most important. Make sure to keep in contact with people from school. It will help you feel less isolated at home where you have different friends who don't share the more recent experiences you have had. This year I'm lucky enough to visit some of my friends in Colorado next week, and I have regular Pokemon TCG battles over snapchat with a friend every week (or so). We also do a secret santa book present exchange over Winter Break and that's a fun way to remind each other we exist.

Keep busy but make breaks. You don't want to be bored. It can be the worst thing that can happen. Having a job help eliminate a lot of that for me, but even outside of work I don't want to be bored. I have a list of tasks I need to accomplish at some point, but none that are so pressing that I would get stressed if I didn't finish them right away. It's a good balance. And I never plan to do anything after ten pm or so, and that way I have time to read or watch TV for sure. It's good me time, and since no one is really awake in my house after that it really is peaceful.

Unpack. It's really important that you unpack your bags. I mean, I haven't, yet, but that's because I'm leaving in a week to go to Colorado. As soon as I'm back from that trip they're all getting unpacked. Why? Seeing them sitting there is distressing. Not just because they're a mess but because they make me feel like a stranger in my own house. That's bad. That's not something you want when you want to settle back into your life here.

Don't feel bad for feeling bad. It's okay to feel bad. If others give you a hard time don't let it get to you. Your feelings are valid and they matter and anyone who tries to undermine them either doesn't understand or doesn't care or isn't thinking clearly. Get yourself out of that situation, take deep breaths, try to relax, and if you can talk and it helps, talk to someone who will help. If you don't have that person and you want to talk, just hit me up on twitter where I'm always willing to respond.

I hope these tips help. I know they help me for sure. If you have any of your own advice, let me know in the comments!

Thursday, November 17, 2016

College Journey: Preparing for Finals

If you're just discovering College Journey for the first time, welcome! This is a series I post twice a month on the last two Thursdays of each month (with a break during the summer). It's one part diary, two parts advice. I'm by no means the best source, but I think I'm a pretty good source, since I'm currently living the college experience.

For returners: yes, I know, I've been promising a dorm/campus tour. This really is my bad. Time has been getting away from me! So I promise, before February 2017 is over (yes, it seems far away, I'm sorry) there will be a tour of both up. There will probably be snow, but my goal is to record before the snow hits. I really am sorry for this taking so long but I fully intend to do it and deliver a good final project. Just give me a little more time.

Now, it may seem a little early, but it's already time for finals, at least for me. In fact, they're this weekend (finals on a weekend? yes it really is the torture it sounds like) but seeing as they're my fourth go at this sort of thing you'd think I'd be prepared. That might be a stretch, but I certainly am more equipped in knowing how I study most efficiently even if I'm not, what you might call, "prepared". Here's my best advice to prepare, for those taking finals for the first time and for those who have done it a million times.

Give yourself time- but not too much. I planned out two weeks of studying in order to get ready for this year's, and that's more than enough time for my classes this term. In fact, it was too much. If you pay attention during class and generally know what's going on then two weeks are probably too long. To play it safe, go with a week and a half for each final. Of course, if you think you need more, go with more! But don't go with more than three weeks. You'll stop learning at a certain point and there's also important information still being taught at that point that you can't ignore. It could hurt your grade in the classes unintentionally.

BREAKS are VERY important. Trust me. Don't over plan what you want to study, is a good rule of thumb. That's why the range of a week and a half to three weeks works well. This year I was able to spread a chapter out over the course of two days for my classes, so, say, I would study chapter thirteen on Monday and Tuesday, take notes as I go, and then move onto chapter fourteen on Wednesday and Thursday. It worked well and I was never overwhelmed. Even if you do this- TAKE BREAKS. You're brain stops processing after about an hour (it's actually less, but I don't know the real number and it is slightly different for everyone). As a rule I don't spend more than an hour at a time on one thing. In fact, I try to only spend half an hour, take a break, and then return for another half hour. And I never spent more than an hour and a half each day studying a topic. Why? I didn't want to burn out and lose motivation. This way it really was spread out. Some break ideas: a short walk, particularly during golden hour (which is this really cool time of the day where the world turns golden. Since it changes every day the best option is just to google "when is the golden hour today" and you'll find it); reading a chapter (though I don't recommend it because it will distract you more than you might think); eating lunch or dinner (pairing food and break works well for me but it may not for you); showering (my favorite sort of break); spending time on tumblr or twitter, as long as you can control that time spent; listening to music, which is actually proven to have a positive effect on your mental health (sometimes I would lay in bed, eyes closed, earbuds in, and then feel infinitely better); or just hanging with friends (again, if you can control this time you spend together).

Write things down. Whether that means transcribing your notes again, or retaking them fresh as if you hadn't already, or making notecards, write things down to get it in your head better. Yes, the computer can be a fine place, but I really recommend actually printing it on paper with a pen. It just helps. I know there's actually a scientific reason, too, but even just speaking for experience I do better on tests when I do this. And don't be afraid to use a but-load of colors in your writing! I use at least five because it makes the taking of the notes interesting and when I look back over it I can easily identify what's important for what reasons and be pleased by the colors.

Get a lot of sleep. Okay, not too much, don't be lazy, but don't let exhaustion get the best of you. 8 hours a night people! And not just the night before the exam (which is really, really important, alongside a breakfast) but every night leading up to the test for like a week. The rest will help both your studying and your test taking. It reduces stress and tiredness (obviously) and you'll feel all around better. I know sleep can feel unimportant when you need to remember all those important facts, but, really, this can save your grade. Seriously.

Prepare for winter break. This isn't directly related to finals, but for me, when finals are over I have a really long winter break. It lasts, this year, from the week of Thanksgiving to January 2nd. Which means I have to pack clothing to bring back home to wear and anything else I might need. I need to clean up my room so I don't come back to a slobbish mess and I need to make sure there's no left over food. This goes along with a lot of things I said when I wrote my Preparing for School post.

These are best pieces of advice. And there are so many other great pieces of advice too! If you have any you'd like to share, please do in the comments. Next week will be a combination post of advice from the comments section and online sources and also some advice for returning home from school and dealing with post-culture shock and depression at home. It'll be an interesting post!

Thursday, October 27, 2016

College Journey: Apps for School

I bet you were expecting to see the title Dorm and School tour, since I've been promising it for ages, but, alas, I didn't have time to record or edit it. So, yes, if you were looking forward to it, please feel free to suggest a "punishment" in the comments and I'll make sure to get to it next month.

Recently, though, I've found some apps that help keep me both motivated and healthy, and I thought I'd share them with you. If you have other apps that you love please share in the comments!

Forest. Forest is an app that you set as a timer for a certain amount of time, and during that time a tree grows in the app. If you exit the app on your phone the tree dies, so it keeps your phone from being a distraction. Of course, my computer can still be a distraction, but I actually feel pretty bad about it if I get distracted while the tree is growing, so it's worked to keep me on track. And if you grow enough trees and get enough points, an actual tree is planted!

Plant Nanny. This is one to remind me to drink water, because I've been having an issue with dehydration lately. If I don't drink enough I feel pretty terrible throughout the rest of the day. This app not only reminds me to drink water but when I drink water and log it in, the plants I plant get bigger and stay healthy! You may have noticed I like digital plants (perhaps because I can't grow them in real life).

Those are just the two apps that have really been helping me along. Only recently have I thought to use my phone as a tool for school, and it's been wonderful!

Thursday, October 20, 2016

College Journey: Making Time to Read

I know I've been promising a dorm/campus tour for a while now but I haven't had time to record it yet. So next week. I PROMISE. And if I fail... well, you can think up a punishment.

For those who are new: College Journey is something I post the last two Thursdays of every month to both record my own experiences and help those who will be starting college next year or have just started this year. It's been a while since I collected all the posts in one place, so I'm including all the links in this post as well.

Freshman Year
Sophomore Year

I know that's quite a few links, but I like for it to be accessible to people. If you ever have a question about college life, personal or broad, don't be afraid to email me at tsundokusam@gmail.com 

I think I've spoken about this topic sporadically, but reading college can be hard. It took me about a month this year to get into the habit again and figure out my time management in a way that let me actually read regularly, so I wanted to share with all of you, who might be having a hard time carving out time to read. And, honestly, this is applicable to not just college students but all students.

Read before you sleep. I go to bed at midnight every night. That might seem late, but it actually gets me 8 hours since I wake up at 8:30 every day. I never have enough energy at night to really make it worth doing any homework. I could stay up and talk to friends, and sometimes I do do that, but since I see them a lot every day anyways, unless there's something special going on it's not my priority. What tends to happen is around 10 I retreat to my room and read. This only works for weekdays, though, since on weekends I don't even aim for midnight to sleep.

Read when you wake up. This is what I tend to do on weekends. I don't meet friends on weekends until around noon, since everyone likes to sleep in. I have a hard time sleeping in that late, so I normally, unless I have pressing homework, just read until it's time to meet everyone. This is one of the times I get the most reading done.

Read after classes are completely over. I love to read once I get home after all my classes are done for the day. I don't normally read for that long during these times of the day, since I want to get to my homework, but a chapter or two doesn't hurt and it lowers my anxiety.

Don't read in spurts. This is what I was doing wrong. I was using reading to be the padding between other work, but only reading one chapter in between hours of work was just killing my reading juice and I needed more than that. Now that I read for huge chunks of time I can actually notice a difference- I do more work during work time and relax more during reading time and enjoy reading more.

Don't force yourself to read or feel bad about not getting things read. This hasn't been much of a problem this year as much as it was last year, but sometimes I get mad or start to hate a book if it takes me too long to read, even if it's not the book's fault. And this, too, drains the fun out of reading when I'm stressing about finishing a book.

That's just my advice for reading! Do you have any particular advice? I'd love to hear it, so please comment!

Thursday, September 29, 2016

College Journey: Settling (Back) Into School

Today I want to talk about what it's been like to readjust to being at school and deliver some pointers for people who are enjoying their very first term at college. 

It can be a rough transition sometimes, but this year it was a pretty easy immediate adjustment. Little physically changed about my campus during the summer and being back around my friends here has been very, very nice. It wasn't that I expected them to be completely different, or suddenly hate me, or something similar, but that I was afraid I had hyped them up in my head and imagined how much we had together. Nope, we still have a bunch of fun and we live together really well (as is probably noticeable by the last post).

On Making Time To Be Alone
I have a new roommate this year, but so far we live pretty well together! It's always hard going form having your own room to having to share one with someone else, and that's actually been a little rougher for me this year than it was last year. One thing I've started to do is make sure that I actually do take time to be alone. I don't mean ostracizing myself, but sometimes you just have to take advantage of the opportunity of being alone and enjoy it. If you're like me, an introvert, there are a few ways to make sure you get that time alone to recharge. Just ask. Yes, this is the hardest one to do so I'm going to start off with it. You can just ask your roommate(s) to let you have some time to yourself. Save this for when you have something major that you really, really, really need to be alone for and need them to vacate the room for. Or, let people know you need some alone time and carve out a space in the corner of your library. I'm sure there's room. Don't tell people where you're at. But don't do it in a way that would distress anyone. Seriously. Don't do this late at night, or when you're in an unfamiliar place. I do this during lunch sometimes or when I'm studying in the library. I'll get a group message that asks where everyone's at and I ignore it not to be mean but because I need recharge time. It happens, not very often, but it happens and it's okay and not that selfish if you need the time. Wake up early. College kids tend not to get up that early if they can avoid it. I used to be the same. But then I realized that by waking up at 7 or 8 in the morning, especially on weekends, I got something like 4 hours of alone time in the morning. I couldn't be super loud because I didn't want to wake people up, but I go out in the common area, or the library if it's open, and just enjoy the quiet and solitariness to do whatever I want. Artificial alone time. Basically, a white noise machine (or app. And brown noise is preferable if you ask me). Plug in and use it as background noise for whatever you're doing- reading, studying, homework, blogging, art, whatever. You may have another person in the room, or another several people, but it does a good job of fooling your brain into thinking you've got a little more space.

On Schoolwork and Studying
On Mondays and Fridays I have about 4 and a half hours of class. On Wednesdays it's more like 7 hours. Tuesdays are completely free for me, and Thursdays only have an hour and a half of class time. Overall, that's three classes that take up a total of 13 hours (if I did the math correctly). Going to class can get really arduous but so far so good. Going in is the best way I learn, so I try to force myself even when I don't want to. As far as studying and doing work outside of class entails, I try to work for three hours a day outside of classes on either homework or studying for tests. The only exceptions to this rule are Wednesdays, where I only dedicate two of my hours to homework, and Fridays, which I'm never that productive on after the last class gets out, where I dedicate no time at all to homework. Does this work? Well, I've managed to not only keep up on classes, but get slightly ahead, or at least ahead enough that certain levels of stress are taken off of every day. Will it work for you? It really depends on the number of classes you take and what the intensity of the classes call for. Try starting with three hours of time set aside each day and see how that gets you for a week. If you need more, keep track of how much more time you need.

On Blogging
I did take a two week break from blogging, and that's a nice cushion when adjusting back into classes, but I do wish I had taken an extra week. I think next year I might. We'll have to see. It isn't that hard to carve time into my day to blog as long as I keep up on everything. I don't let myself plan more than three things a day to really spend time blogging on, and only one of those three things can be writing a post so that I don't lose all my energy in one place. It works pretty well but it won't work for everyone. However you keep up on everything, do that. Falling behind can lead to overwhelming feelings and being overwhelmed can lead to quitting blogging. Don't be afraid to take some time away from the blog, or to start limiting what time you do spend on the blog. If you do find yourself starting to struggle, pick one day a week to sit down and dedicate an hour or two to blogging. If it's something you care about, don't let it fall by the wayside. I learned that the hard way. And this can be applied to things other than blogging, like art.

On Eating
Food here sucks. Like, it really seriously sucks. I'm going to dedicate a whole post to talking about what you can do when your school has terrible food, but for now I'm going to give you the rundown of things I'm going to start trying to do in order to combat the crap food. Cooking my own meals. I don't have to go at this one alone thanks to my friends. We'll all be taking turns making meals and deserts and it's going to be a bunch of fun (I predict). Okay, so this is really the only plan I have at the moment. Which is why there will be another post about food coming at some point, though maybe not until the new year when everything has been figured out for sure.

On Dealing with Stress
Another post will be coming related to this topic as well, since I'm still figuring out how to deal with all my stress again. Reading is something that helps a lot, but I haven't had much time for that. Watching Youtube is another thing, but same with reading I have no time. It hasn't been overwhelming, perhaps because I do have a hand at navigating these waters, but I do slightly feel as if I'm on the edge of a tipping point and I'm a little afraid to fall off.

That's it for this week but I'll see you all in a few weeks. As always, if you ever have a specific question regarding college, or need any advice, email me at tsundokublog@gmail.com and I'll make sure to answer either privately or on a post depending on what you want/need.

Tuesday, September 27, 2016

College Journey: Clubs and Why They're Important

College Journey is something I normally post on the last two Thursdays of each month, but as you may have seen in my wrap up, school has kept me a little too busy lately. So, yes, this is coming much later than I would have liked to have posted it, but I'm glad I was still able to post it because I truly do enjoy doing these. This week was originally going to be a dorm and campus tour, but I think I'll be saving that for next month and I fully plan to do a video for it (so I can more directly interact with you all) so please stay tuned. Now, this week's post is partly inspired by one of the things that's been keeping me rather busy- clubs.

What clubs I'm in
Last year I wasn't a part of any clubs but this year I wanted to stretch more around campus and had already been tapped to be part of Quiver last year before I even got to school this year. Quiver, which you may have seen me talking about, is one of my school's literary magazines (Premier Genre Magazine, I've written on all our social media platforms mostly because we are the only genre magazine on campus) and I'm not only an editor but I'm also the head of Public Relations which mean I run all the social media. I really enjoy it, but for the first two weeks I needed to figure out how to handle all of this and do a bit of a balancing act, which isn't always fun. It doesn't help that there wasn't a PR before this year so I'm stepping in and doing a lot of things new for the first time. I'm also a member of the school book club, which is something I'm doing with some friends. We read two or three books each semester, and the books are totally free and provided by the school. There have been two book club meetings so far, but none where we discuss the book since we only just started it. That book is The Blind Assassin and honestly I'm rather enjoying it so far. It does take some time to read but it's not a huge cut into my time so I'm not that disgruntled by it or anything. Also, I will be reviewing it here when I've finished it, so that's a plus! The last club is a club that doesn't quite exist yet, and that's Pokemon club. I'm actually helping a friend to get it started and if all goes as planned it should be up and running by Winter term and I'll be VP of the club.

Why join clubs
First of all, to meet new people. Whether you're new to the school and want friends or you just want to make connections to other people in your field, it's one of the best places to try. Clubs are always looking for new members and schools always want to support their clubs because it helps attract potential students. Another great reason to join a club is to get you out of your room and doing things regularly. Yes, this means you might be very busy (which is a state I'm not a fan of) but it can also mean that you don't have time to feel sad or lonely, especially if you're surrounded by people. I'm not saying it's a cure-all for depression, but honestly, it does help to get you motivated to get up each day if you struggle. One last great reason is because, hey, they're pretty fun most of the time. Hard work? Maybe. But they're your choice and you're doing it because you're enjoying it.

How to manage your time with clubs
This is something I'm still learning to do but I am beginning to get a grip on it, finally. The best way to manage clubs is to have a planner where you can break down events by the quarter hour mark. Since I couldn't find one of those planners (do they exist? who knows) I use an excel sheet that lets me glance at a week at a time and see how much free time I actually have and decide what I could use that free time on. Since making the excel sheet I will admit that a lot of the stress related to clubs and classes has gone down and my time management has gone up.

How to manage stress
Again, this is something I'm still working on, but even a work in progress picks up a few tips along the way. Number one is knowing how to relax is a top priority. For me, that's reading books for pleasure. I've managed to divvy up time these past few days where I can just read for an hour or so before I go to sleep and that always helps me wake up in the morning in a good mood. Sometimes this doesn't work out every night, and then the next day I do normally end up more stressed, but if you let that build up for too long you will find yourself meeting negative consequences. It's okay to force yourself to take a break and just relax, I promise, because even if it feels like you'll never wade through all your homework, after a respite you'll discover it's not actually that bad after all. Another great way to manage stress is to not over extend yourself. It's hard to say no sometimes, but if your club is demanding too much it's okay to take a step back and say you can't be at one meeting or you can't do one event, or you can only work on a project for half the time normally slated. Everyone gets overwhelmed and being a school club everyone should understand. If they don't, then don't work up about it and just realize you're in the right and that school should come first.

Do you have any club related advice? I'd love to hear it in the comments! And do you have any requests of places you'd like me to show in my tour of the campus? I'm going to try to include everything, but if there's something in particular you want to see please let me know.

Thursday, August 25, 2016

College Journey: Leaving

Last Thursday my College Journey post was all about packing and what to bring. And, as a reminder, I'll be posting these the last to Thursdays of every month for the foreseeable future.

Now, after you've finished packing it's time to leave. For some people it's going to be incredibly hard, you won't want to say goodbye to friends, family, pets, or stuff. For others it's exciting and you can wait for the new adventure. Most people will experience both. And everyone will be nervous. Because, chances are, it's your first time away from home living on your own. Not everything will be up to you, but this is a mark of you becoming a bona-fide adult! Isn't that terrifying? You'll learn to love it.

I don't want to scare you too badly. But I do want you to understand the reality that it's okay to be frightened of the unknown that's about to be shoved your way. It's a natural reaction and in this case the best way to treat it is just to go with the flow of it. Talk to someone about how you feel, rant on the internet, or write it down in a notebook. I hope with this post I can guide you through some of the rougher patches, so that when you do leave you know it's going to be okay.

First off: leave your room the way you want to return to it. This is a mistake I made. While my room wasn't a complete disaster when I left for school, it wasn't completely put together and made up nicely. It didn't bother me when I was away, but when I would come back even for a weekend it was so annoying to be dealing with my old mess. It's not worth it, especially when you want a relaxing environment to fall back into when you return for winter break (or whenever you return) so make sure to clean up before you go!

Have a game plan to stay in touch with friends and family. For family I recommend setting aside a certain time every week or day where you can actually call them and talk to them. I don't have a set time, but I also don't talk to my parents on the phone that often. While that's fine now, and something I'm totally used to, for the first few weeks it was hard to not know when they would call or if it would be when I had time. You may not have your schedule when you leave for school, but as soon as you get it work something out with loved ones you want to touch base with regularly. For friends I try to keep an open correspondence with them. I try to write handwritten letters because it's so nice to get things in the mail and I try to text each of them at least once a week. Everyone has their own lives which get in the way, though, so don't feel awful if it's not contact all the time like you may be used to. My friends go to schools pretty far from me and we still manage to talk, though not as frequently as we used to. Our relationships are still pretty great! Of course you'll also be making new friends at your school so don't worry about being lonely.

Have some good food for the two days before you leave. Where I go to school, at least, there just aren't very many restaurants nor do I get decent home cooked meals. So the two days before I leave (more like three actually) I make it a point to only eat the food I know I won't get the chance to eat during the semester. Whether it's restaurants that are only near my house, places to expensive for me to afford without my parents, or something my mom makes in the kitchen, it's nice to have these things before you have to say goodbye to them as well.

On the same note, stop in at your favorite stores. It shouldn't be a surprise that I will be stopping in at the two local Barnes and Noble's by me before I wave my little town goodbye. At school the nearest one is an hour away and while I don't mind the drive I can't go all the time when I want a new book or just to enjoy the atmosphere. I'll also be stopping into a few other places that I won't be able to see again for a while.

You've finished packing, but it's best to double check you have everything. First of all, you don't want to forget something super obvious, which can happen if you don't pack it away. My blanket for example. I probably wouldn't forget it, but I can't pack it until the day I leave. Things like my hairbrush, though, which I'll use until I go are easily forgettable. You want to go through your room and your house and make a mental checklist of stuff deciding whether you will need it at school and how important it is.

Sign up for Amazon student prime. If you haven't done this already, seriously do. It's well worth it. Just search up Amazon Student Prime and you'll find links that will guide you through the process. How it works is that you feed it a .edu email address to prove you're a student (or a teacher because actually they can do this it's nice). For the first six months you get free prime, albeit a version of prime that leaves out the streaming services. You do get free two day shipping though (which is what I use for everything I swear it's a life saver!) and same-day release delivery for book preorders. After the six months are up you get the option to renew the prime service, for half the price of regular prime but with all the features that you didn't get before. And man is it worth it! I strongly recommend it.

Finally, keep your chin up and smile. You'll be back, and while homesickness may hit, it will also pass. School will go well and while it may be a hard transition you'll be able to do it. I believe in you. And so does this puppy ;)

Thursday, August 18, 2016

College Journey: Packing

Hello! It's been a while since I've done a College Journey post, but with school starting up very soon I thought I'd jump back into doing these. A quick recap for people who are new to the blog:

I go to a small liberal arts school in the middle of nowhere Illinois. I love my school, and wouldn't trade it for another college ever. I'll be the first to admit, though, that even your dream school can be hard work and stressful. So these posts are both a little diary of sorts (however, I do have a side blog now that will get the chunk of the diary portions) and a helpful guide for both first-years and returning students. If you ever have a question or need advice, don't hesitate to contact me! I'm not a pro but I've managed to survive the first year and learn quite a bit about surviving as a shy bookworm in a place where I'm expected to be outgoing all the time.

Here are my past College Journey posts:

Last year there wasn't a set schedule, per say, for these posts but this year I plan to do two college journey posts a month. I'm thinking that the last two Thursdays of each month will work out well for this, so keep an eye out.

Now, onto the actual intended content of this post: PACKING

Yes, it's very daunting to be packing up your things in order to move out of your house and into a college dorm. But, worry not, there are about a billion packing lists out there that will help guide you on your way to figuring out what to bring with you. The one from hercampus.com is my favorite because you can actually print it out and it's a really nice, easy to use list. But, like most lists, it's got way more stuff on it than you probably need. I've decided to more or less share my packing list and strategy. This is what I actually ended up using last year and what I plan to bring back this year.

I'll be following the categories put in place by HerCampus, by the way, but I won't be going into so much detail. If you do plan to use their list, I recommend printing it out and crossing off anything you don't need before you start using it as a checklist. It helps to prevent from getting lost.

Bedding
First and foremost- bring a comforter and an extra, lighter, throw blanket that you can still sleep with even if it's a million degrees outside. I can't sleep without a blanket on, so having a light one has been a life saver. I was also able to use it when I did homework outside on the grass. You're also going to want a mattress pad and don't be afraid to invest in a nice one. It's the best thing that has ever happened to my sleeping! I'm not even kidding a little bit. The mattresses at school aren't awful, but they're not the best so it's a nice comfort there, but even at home over the summer I use it on top of my rather comfortable mattress. (Everyone at home is super jealous of my bed now, haha.) The number of pillows really depends on each person. I bring two, one a really puffy one that I sleep on and one a little flatter that I use under my knees (it helps with my back, actually). I also recommend getting one of these sitting pillows that has the little armrests on the sides and can be used to make sitting in bed more comfortable. I use mine all the time and sometimes fall asleep reading with it, it's comfortable enough. And don't forget pillow cases (I recommend at least two for each pillow but personally bring three per pillow just in case) and sheets (again, two or three should do it). An important reminder: you're bed at school with probably be an extra long twin, so prepare for that with the proper size sheets and mattress pad! If you want to get fancy with your bed, a few throw pillows can tie the room together. I don't have any (yet) but I'm currently on the hunt for cute, bookish ones.

Room
Adhesive hooks are a must even if you don't quite know what you're going to do with them yet. I promise you will find a million reasons you need them, so get at least one pack of the sturdy ones. I also see the perks of a closet organizer, especially if you only get a small dresser. I didn't need one last year because of the way my room was set up (and I got double the dresser space) but this coming year I know I'm going to have to pick one up pretty early in the game. As for lamps it can't hurt to bring one, but until you see the set up of your room and figure out how much you're actually going to be using one (and whether you'll be able to fit any and if your desk has a built in light like many do) don't bother getting too many. Same with a full length mirror. I know you're going to want one because rarely do rooms come with them, but wait until you see where it would fit. Last year there wasn't really room for one in my room and it wouldn't even fit over the door. Hangers are super easy to overlook, but you need enough to hang at least half your clothes (if you have a dresser) and all your clothes if you don't. Don't skimp on these. I know you can get them pretty cheap from a bunch of places. Getting a safe is also a brilliant idea. I'm not saying you won't trust your roommate, but there are some things (like, maybe some extra cash or your birth certificate) that you don't want to take any chances with. I use a safe that's meant to be kept under the seat of a car (it's actually a mini gun safe I think, lol) and it's a pretty perfect size. I wish I knew where my dad had gotten it, because it's perfect. There's a chance your bed will be lofted, so you're going to want some sort of step ladder to get up if you're short like me. I use a little blue box that also serves as extra storage and I got it at Target. I'm pretty sure I saw them there again this year, and they're pretty durable. Last but not least, decorations. Go a little crazy because you want this to feel like your home since it is, at least for the rest of the semester. Wall hangings, pictures of family and friends, funko pop figures, whatever! Just bring a little of everything. And don't worry about setting it all up the first day, because you will have time in the coming days as school gets rolling in order to get comfortable.

Laundry
This is a pretty short but important list: bring whatever you use at home to use at school. Not sure what you use? Ask whoever does the laundry. I use fabric softener, the occasional garment bag, laundry detergent, and a portable stain remover pretty regularly. I also recommend a lint brush because, yes, you will use that for more than lint I promise (I don't know how many times I used it on the most random things, honestly). And don't forget a hamper and if you can splurge get a bag as well. I had to travel three floors in order to get to the laundry and the bag saved my life. Most important, find out how you pay for laundry and bring a surplus of that. Chances are, you're going to need a butt-ton of quarters so stock up!

Food
Food is a comfort for me, so I bring a little more than I probably need. My advice: if you drink soda or something else regularly and don't want to have to get up and leave your room every time you want some, bring enough of that drink to satisfy you for half the term. If you have the ready ability to go shopping (money, a car, whatever) then you probably don't need that much, but during the first weeks of your freshman term you want to make sure you have your comforts with you easily. The same goes for snacks and favorite meals. Bring enough to sustain you for quite some time. Obviously, you can't make elaborate meals, but I bring my favorite soup, pepperoni, and even macaroni that I can only buy near my house and it really helps on hard days to have these things. Also, make sure you have a steady supply of water. I have a  filtered water bottle and that's enough for me because next year I actually have a water fountain practically outside my door. A lot of people I know recommend a filtered water pitcher.

Kitchen Supplies
Now, this really depends on where you're living. If you have a kitchen, bring a few basic things like some pots and pans and spoons and whatnot. I don't have the luxury of an easy to get to kitchen (though I do have access this year, which is great!) but I still bring some basic necessities: chip clips (I actually use pipe cleaners which we have in quite the abundance here and they work in such a neat hack, honestly), a dish towel (if you make a lot of food bring more; you want something to clean up with, after all), plates (I have four), bowls (again, four), cups (sensing a pattern yet? four), and a portable mug for whatever I might need. I can't recommend the mug enough. I also keep sponges and dish soap ready at all times because I hate when dishes pile up. Also, utensils can be easily overlooked, but beyond bringing the regular sorts (knives, forks, spoons) bring an extra sharp knife that can be used for cutting things like pizza (or cake). I had to get one last minute and I've used it so many times it's crazy. If you're school allows it, bring a fridge and a microwave, too. Make sure to talk with your roommate to see who brings what, though. I personally don't drink coffee but if you need a coffee maker then make sure you pack one away. Another important addition: paper towels.

Bathroom
Towels! Bring at least three (I bring four) and make sure they're the extra long type, especially if you share a shower with many people. You want to be able to wrap yourself in one securely. I also bring a robe because it is plushy but if you have long enough towels you should be okay. Though, for someone a little uncomfortable with their bodies (like myself) a robe is a must. And don't skimp on the shower caddy because it will save your life. If you can, keep it in your bathroom. If you can't, keep it by the door. Before I forget: bathroom/shower shoes. I have two pairs. And even then I got some rash on my foot which was really really itchy but otherwise fine. Honestly, a pair of flip flops will do the trick.

Toiletries
Anything you use on a regular basis at home. That's the general rule here. If you're not sure, just take not for a few days of everything you use when you go in there. And I'm counting things like hand soap and toilet paper. Yes, some school don't supply toilet paper. I'm lucky mine does. It might seem hard to forget, but not having your favorite toothpaste and a decent toothbrush will seriously mess with you. A tip I learned from my mom: dry shampoo is the way to go for early classes after late nights. A few other necessities I don't want you forgetting: hairbrush, glasses/contacts and related supplies, hair ties, nail clippers (my poor friend had to suffer without them for weeks! it's dreadful when you want to do something but can't), a razor, sunglasses, tampons/pads (if applicable, obviously), tissues (you will use! because you WILL get sick), and tweezers.

Clothing
I'm really bad with clothing, so I don't know what you're going to want. But a rule of thumb: bring two weeks worth of outfits. Ideally, you can do laundry once a week, but if you're swamped you're going to want clean clothes that didn't take an hour and a half of your time to wash the day before. Also, make sure to prepare for whatever climates you'll be moving into.

Tech
I'm not sure what you use on a regular basis, but bring that. And bring the chargers for that and any batteries you will need. A laptop case won't hurt, either. And spare headphones/earbuds is something you won't want to go without, no matter how much you love the people you're living with.

School Supplies
A backpack or similar bag, letter writing paper (which is a splurge but I love handwritten notes on nice stationary, sue me), envelopes, an eraser, folders (I actually have a folder with six pockets and that's my favorite thing in the world), highlighters (my bae!), notebooks, pencils, pens, pencil case, sharpie(s), a planner (or two if you're crazy like me), post-it-notes, a ruler, scissors (a must!), stamps, a stapler, tape, and white out. Obviously you'll want your textbooks, too, but whether you wait until you see the syllabus or get them in advance to do some early reading is up to you. I wouldn't worry too much if you forget any of this stuff because your school store will surely have it. But it's nice to be prepared during the middle of the year when midterms start keeping you up late, so be prepared before then. It depends on how the school works, and how much is costs, but a printer is not a bad investment. Or at least make friends with someone who has a printer and chip in on the ink (which is expensive!).

Medical
Anything you use on a daily basis and anything you need to be comfortable at the drop of a pin. I mean, obviously be safe about it, but make sure you have not just medicine but a basic first aid kit and cold packs. Also, because it is college and you're an adult, condoms. Chances are, though, your school will proved some for free (it's humorous how many places one could get free condoms at my school- like, literally any study room you walk into has a box of them). A small word on sex: if you're going to do it be safe. That is all.

Misc.
Well, this is actually the fun part imo. Bring any art supplies you need. For me, a writer, that's a journal or two and colorful pens. I also bring a sketchpad and my watercolors because that is the best way to relax when I'm super stressed out. On the same note I bring my small collection of coloring books. Like, there are only two, but it's practically a collection, right? LOL I just realized I had three but one's a joke so still, two. Also, I'm obviously a book nerd (what gave it away?) so I bring books. And I've finally cracked the code on how many to bring! Observe: figure out about how many books you read a month. For me, that's around five. Then figure out how many months you'll be at school before you can get home and switch some books out. For me that's nearly three months. Now multiply: fifteen. I plan to bring about fifteen books with me. That's a fluid number, and not counting any preorders that will arrive at my school while I'm there, but it's a pretty solid number (at least for me). You don't want to bring to many books. I've been there done that and while it's nice, you won't get the chance to read them all and then you'll have to bring them home and they are heavy, dammit! A must have is games. I bring Settlers of Catan, three different packs of cards, and this year I'm also throwing in Exploding Kittens. These are games I love to play and they're fun for a bunch of people. Bring things you can play on your own and things you can play with others to help break the ice. Truth be told: it was over a game of cards that I found some of my best friends. Any religious materials you need should be brought as well. Religion is such a source of comfort for many people. Normally, I bring my bible (btw I'm Catholic, a liberal Catholic but still a Catholic), my rosary, and a statue of Mary that was carved from wood from the Holy Land. It's just a small collection of things but when I'm in a bad way they're nice to have by my side. A sleep mask is also a must for me. Even if it's not bright in the room you're sleeping in, it sometimes helps remind my eyes that they should stay closed because I'm falling asleep. And don't forget an umbrella. It will rain at least once and you don't want to get caught in the rain with an open backpack and no cover (my poor TA...). Also, an extra bag or two so you can travel and visit home for a weekend and have a way to get things back and forth.

So, yeah, that's it! That's what I would recommend. Didn't see something on the list you can't live without? Well, then bring it anyways. As much as packing lists are nice, they are only a guide and shouldn't be taken as the be-all for college. I do hope this helped quite a bit!

And best of luck with moving into college!

Sunday, May 8, 2016

College Journey: Things You Should Know (That I Was Told) Before Going Away To College

It's been about a month since my last college post and some time longer since I did one with legit advice.  Since the year is wrapping up I thought I'd sit back and think about either the advice I was told, or what I read online, and pick out the most important ones to help anyone out there who needs similar advice.

1. Making friends isn't easy, but it will happen.
Sometimes it takes a long time.  I didn't make good friends until second term (so, after Winter Break).  I had friends, but they were more casual and we didn't really cement our friendships until later.  But now?  They're some of my best friends and I don't think I'll ever stop being friends with them.  So don't give up hope if you haven't found your close friends right away; it's not always easy.

2. It's okay to do things alone.
By which I mean, it's okay to sit in the library and study alone.  Or eat dinner alone.  Or take a class without any friends.  No one will judge you!  Because, you know what?, we're all in the same boat and sometimes it just works out that you're alone.  It also helps to build the "adult" in you.

3. You will become an adult.
I mean, legally, yeah you'll be an adult if you aren't already, but you'll also start to take care of yourself in new ways.  It goes beyond doing your laundry, buying your own meals, and choosing how to spend you time.  It's something that will happen when you're met with circumstances you didn't prepare for and have to confront immediately.  Sometimes you'll be able to ask for help, but sometimes it's up to you, and you'll be a better person because of it, I promise.

4. You will have more leisure time.
It won't seem like it at first, but once you get your schoolwork under control (and that will happen) your days will open up.  Whether you choose to fill that time with Netflix binge's, clubs and organizations, sports, or reading is up to you.  But you get to choose and you'll have plenty of time to choose from.

5. You'll try new things.
And I don't mean you'll be doing all the drugs and drinking all the alcohol (that's dangerous, drinking all the alcohol), I mean you'll find yourself in new places and with new places come new experiences.  Enjoy them!  They may be things you'll never be able to do again for one reason or another.  Take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way!

That's just some of my own advice.  If you have your own, please let me know in the comments!

Sunday, April 3, 2016

College Journey: Cozy the Room Challenge

You may remember a challenge I gave myself last year in October where I would try to do something new each day (or so).  You can read about that here.  I didn't do a good job at really keeping anyone posted on how the challenge was going, but it actually went pretty well until it started to snow.  However, now that it's warming up I'm starting to do new things again.  And I've decided to give myself another challenge- I'm going to try and make my dorm a little cozier.

Two things I know: it's a little late in the game for this; my room is already cozy.

But I want it to be COZIER.  More specifically, I want it to have more of my personality in it.  So, for the rest of the year I'm going to make the room cozier, and whenever I write up a college journey post I'll tag on whatever I've done last so you can see how it's going.

Monday, March 7, 2016

College Journey: Time Management

This edition of College Journey kind of bounces off of the stress problems I've been having.  I'm not horrible at time management, but I'm also somewhat of a procrastinator.  So, I decided to take a step back and figure out what it was I needed to do each day to in order to fix this problem, and I think I've found it.  It works for me, and maybe this will help you if you're a procrastinator, too!

So, I've talked up planners quite a bit on this blog.  I swear by them; they're great!  I've also recently taken up bullet journaling, and it's another good tool to have.  It helps me look at the next day in advance and schedule when things need to get done so that I don't overwhelm myself with small tasks.

Planning out what needs to get done each day and what you want to do each day is important.  You don't have to write it down, but for me it's helpful.  Really you should just have a general idea.  For me there are a couple of categories I consider when planning my day.  First is whether I have anything I have to do at a certain time (I call this category Schedule) and this is my top priority since it probably means that other people are expecting something from me.  Then I look at Blogging and HW (I call this category Work).  I keep track of anything I want to write/edit/post for that particular day and what homework I need to get accomplished each day in order to stay on top of things (more on homework later).  The reason I combine blogging and homework is that blogging is, sort of, a job for me.  It's not a career, but I consider myself a reviewer and blogger at this point, which means it's a time commitment.  Also, I love doing it, and adding things you love doing to your schedule makes a day easier to get through.  After this I look at TV and Writing (I call this category Pleasure).  I love watching TV and I try to watch at least an episode a day in order to relax.  I also try to write each day for the same reason.  Finally, I look at what I want to get read each day (aptly, this category is called Reading).  I don't really set page numbers, but I write down what books I'm working on in order to visualize whether I've read recently or not.

Most of those categories are easy to explain, but homework has a little extra organization for me, in order to stay on top of it.  During the week, whenever something is assigned, I write down what day I want to get it done by, and what days I want to spend doing it.  I think it's better to use an example here:

I have a Monday/Wednesday/Friday class called Ways of Reading, and it's more or less an English class.  Every time we meet for class we have at least one essay to read and a summary to write in time for the next class.  So, that means I have about two days to get this done.  Rather than do all my homework for this class on Tuesdays/Thursdays/Weekends as I was doing at the beginning of the term, I've started doing a little each day.  On Monday (the day something is assigned) I read a third of whatever has been assigned and take notes and that reading.  Then, on Tuesday, I finish reading and taking notes and write my summary.

That's just one example of how I manage when I'm doing homework and that particular example has actually helped me understand what I'm reading much better and just glancing at my grades for the class you can tell when I started doing this.

Another good way to manage your time is to have a set time for doing homework/work versus doing pleasure.  I try not to do any homework after dinner because I just don't focus so well once the day is wrapping up.  Anything after this is time for pleasure.  I also like to wake up early and do work because I think better at the beginning of the day.  Still, I try not to start any work until after about 9 o'clock because before that I need to read and get myself situated.

I hope all of this helps if you have trouble managing your time!  If you have any advice about time management, please add it in the comments!  Thanks for stopping by :)

Monday, February 8, 2016

College Journey #9: The Winter Stretch & Stress Reduction

College Journey is a monthly post where I either talk about my own personal experience or some tips about college itself.  Last month I talked about when college isn't right for you.  This week I'm talking about the hardest part of the year (at least, that's what people have told me, and I believe them)- the dead of winter.

So, this year has actually been a really mild winter for me (I live in the midwest) and it actually feels a bit like spring lately.  Still, it seems like the days are dragging by and sometimes I'm barely hanging on, I'm so stressed out.  I talked about this a little in my weekly wrap up, but I was so stressed out that my side was actually hurting.  I've come up with some things you can do to help lower your stress:

Music
I, for one, really rely on music to relax.  My music is an expression of who I am, and I'm very picky about it.  I'm also one of those people who likes to listen to the same song(s) on indefinite repeat.  So, Thursday night, I plugged earbuds in, and listened to the Wicked soundtrack on repeat.  It was really nice and let me just zone out.

Coloring
Adult coloring books are all the rage, and man are they nice.  I have the Enchanted Forest coloring book here with me and the Harry Potter coloring book at home (I'm saving it for the summer when I reread the series for the first time since the movies came out).  I love coloring, it's really relaxing, and when you finish, you feel like you've created an original masterpiece.  I just use markers, but anything looks good with these designs.  Plus, they really aren't that expensive for the quality.

Reading and Writing
Well, duh, of course I'm going to recommend this.  They're both really good if you just need to escape the real world for a bit.  I always relax when I'm reading, even if it's a sad or extreme part of the story.  It's nice to live in another world and deal with problems that aren't your own.

Friends
Personally, I'm an introvert, so hanging out with friends actually makes me a bit more stressed.  But, for all you extrovert's out there, this is a great way to just heal and take a breather.

TV
This is another one that doesn't really work for me because, as much as I enjoy tv, it's harder for me to lose focus on the world around me when I'm just staring at the screen.  A close friend of mine, though, uses this as her main way to get rid of stress and it works really good for her.

Take a Break
I was so stressed out I just skipped class (I know, I'm a horrible person!) and didn't let myself think about homework for a whole day.  Do you know what?  It was one of the best days I've had in a while.  I'm one of those people who feels super stressed out when they skipped class, so I actually attended one (of my three) and it helped.  It made it feel less like I wasn't getting anything done and more like I was just giving myself a well-deserved break.

I hope this helps!  It's not just college advice, really, but a way to help reduce stress.  If you have anything that really helps you, let me know in the comments!

Monday, January 11, 2016

College Journey #8: When College Isn't Right for You

This was originally going to be a very different post.  I was going to talk about Winter Break and how it went on how adjusting back afterwards wasn't nearly as hard as I thought.  But, well, I decided to talk about something else.  And this something else is going to have a lot of personal feelings in it and it's taken a bit of a toll on my mental health.  Basically, I'm not doing great with it, but I wanted to share somewhere and I also think it's important for people who are considering college to take into consideration.  Anyway, here we go:

So, I talked a little about this in my wrap up, but two days ago, Saturday, my roommate left.  She was having a hard time being away from home (she's from California and the school is in Illinois- so quite the distance) and classes were more stressful than she had thought.  So, she decided to transfer out a week into the term.  I'm glad for her because it's what she needs to be healthy and happy, and we plan to stay in contact.  But I'm also incredibly sad because our friend group will never be in the same spot at the same time again, and I won't have that friend here all the time.  It's really strange when you live with someone for several months, get used to each others patterns, and then suddenly, your halfway across the country from them.  So that's my head space.

And it has me thinking.  College isn't for everyone.  I mean, I've known this for a while, but I've never gotten a front row seat to see how it really is a bad decision for some people.  If you're so worried about the idea of it that you're making yourself sick, here are some things to consider:

You can take a gap year.
I have a neighbor who did this.  He got a job, worked for a year, and then went to school.  And he's pretty happy with that decision.  My roommate agrees this was probably the path she should have taken.  In college, age doesn't matter so much as it does in high school.  A lot of things don't matter so much in college as they did in high school.  Taking a gap year really won't hurt your reputation (if that's what you're worried about) and will actually probably prepare you a bit better in some cases.  I know schools don't really encourage this, which is a shame.  My school was adamant against it, and I'm not sure why.  I get that I went to a college prep high school, but still.  The downfall: I considered taking a gap year, but I'm glad I didn't go through with it because I'm one of those people who has to work hard to try new things.  If I hadn't gone to college when all my friends went off I probably wouldn't go to college at all and stayed home.  So, if this is a fear, definitely don't take a gap year.  In the end, you know yourself better than anyone else, so make the decision for yourself.

Community College
Community college is something I think is looked down on and I'm not sure why.  My mom went to community college, several of my friends go to community college, and I have cousins who go as well.  Some are really, really good, too!  Like, they're practically universities in some cases!  You don't even have to go for all four years, either.  Go for the first year, or the first two, and get your feet wet with the idea of college.  Take classes you're interested in and classes that will get your Gen Eds out of the way.  See how stressful college is and get used to the idea of higher education.  Plus, community college is a much cheaper option.

Tour the potential schools.
If you think you're going to go live at a school for more than half a year you have to remember that this place will be your home and that even in the "adult world" you never buy a house before touring it (I mean, at least, I've never heard of anyone not doing that...).  You need to see if you'll be comfortable here.  And go during the school season, so you can see how busy it gets and how friendly other students are.  And going during a warmer month so that you can walk around the town, on foot. On foot!  Don't just drive through, because then you won't get a real sense of the size of a town.  This is super important, and if you're not happy with the town, take this into account when picking a school.  You want to make sure you're happy where you are, because you will be living there!

So that's all I've got to say on this topic.  I really miss my roommate already, and falling asleep and waking up alone is strange to say the least.  But I'm glad she's made the decision that will be best for her.

I hope this post is helpful to people thinking about college!  If you have any questions or comments, let me know down below.